• Selena Frongillo

Maybe Our Girlfriends Are Our Soulmates

Updated: Jan 21


group of girls popping champagne

Girlfriends. Where the hell would we be without our ladies, our chicas, our soul sisters? Some of us might still be sitting on a bar bathroom floor, sobbing over our stupid ex, or binge watching Netflix for the 18th day in a row avoiding civilization (well, some of us might still be doing this). But, the point is, if you're anything like me, you thrive off of the relationships you have with your girls. It's everything - life without them is unimaginable. From late night vent sessions over a glass of wine, to studying for finals together, to traveling across the world together. My friends have been the center of not only my childhood, but young adulthood as well.


Some could argue that your girlfriends are the most important relationships you cultivate - and for me, this couldn't ring more true. Men will come and go, but girlfriends (true ones) will stay for life. Different relationships in your life will meet different needs of yours - whether this is emotional, financial, professional, etc. But, girlfriends can, and will do it all. They can be a shoulder to cry on one day, your therapist the next, your bank the next (shout out to all the money lenders), and your blog editor the next. If you're lucky enough to have amazing friends like I do, they show up for you in every which way you need them (as you would for them).


So, besides being your go-to for basically everything, why are girls so obsessed with their friends?


Reason #1: They keep you grounded

Any time you're spiraling, having your monthly meltdown, or debating for the 5th time if it's a good idea to get back with your ex, your friends will calm you, and give you practical reasoning. They'll remind you that everything is going to be okay, and of all the horrible things Brad did so that you're back on track again.


Reason #2: We relate to each other

Had a tough day? Need someone to discuss the latest episode of The Bachelor with? Searching for someone who will drag you to the gym after a night of Ben & Jerry's binging? We all relate, and are there for each other at the drop of a hat. We like the same things, we've had similar experiences, in which help us connect on such a deep level that just can't be matched by men, our parents, or frankly anyone else.


Reason #3: They're a blast in a glass!

Um, hello?? A main reason we love our friends is they are responsible for all of our fun nights out, our brunch dates, and the reason our wallets are always practically empty. You can always count on a girlfriend to book a trip to Nashville on a whim, binge-eat chips and queso at your favorite Mexican restaurant, or hop in the car for a beach trip. What would life be without these moments with our best friends?


Reason #4: They know all your good angles

NO ONE will drop down to the ground, balance on a sofa leg while holding a lamp, and take 879 pictures of you so you get that one insta-worthy pic like your girlfriends. Need help deciding which pic to post? Send to the group chat. Your girlfriends are your personal photographers for life.


Reason #5: They're honest

Nothing is better than a friend that will give it to you straight. Whether it be telling you to change your not-the-most-flattering outfit, pointing out something stuck in your teeth, or hosting an intervention for your shopping addiction, your girlfriends are the ones who will always be straight up with you.


Reason #6: They're your support network

No one is your #1 fan like your girlfriends (except maybe your mom). Whether you're riding the highest of highs, or the lowest of lows, your friends are there to hype you up like no other. In fact, who encouraged me to start this blog? Yeah, that would be my girlfriends. Finding those people who push you to be your best self and celebrate in your successes and your passions are the people you want with you for life - and I'm so blessed to have found mine.


Reason #7: We're family

Girlfriends are those people that you feel as though you truly can't live without - and can't even remember life before them. Whether it was growing up through high school, meeting my people in college, or branching out even further in my now-professional career, I have fostered such amazing friendships at each stage in my life that I know will last a lifetime. I couldn't be more grateful to know such strong, independent, driven, compassionate, caring women in which I get to call my soul sisters. As Charlotte said in Sex and The City, “Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with." And, that, I couldn't agree with more.

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